Black couple have record for world's longest marriage

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I know this is probably old news to a lot of you, but I just wanted to share.

Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher have been married for a whopping 85 years!! And on their wedding anniversary, May 13, they will have one of the longest marriages on record.

On Valentine's Day of this year, they tweeted some of their secrets to a long, happy marriage. A couple of secrets?

• Remember marriage is not a contest- never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win.


• Respect, support and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest and true. Love each other with ALL of your heart.

You can see the rest of their tweets here.

Yay for [long-lasting] black love!! ♥ ♥

How long is too long...

...to be engaged? I'm sure you've heard of people who've been engaged several years- 4, 5, 6 years or as little as six months.

 I think that 1-2 years is enough time to stay engaged, but there are some situations that might require you to wait longer- waiting to graduate, someone in the military or if you want an extravagant wedding and have to save for it.

Personally, I don't think I would wait more than two years from engagement to get married...what about you?

How long is too long to be engaged?

I can't believe it...

Saturday, Chris and I went on a little outing. We went to the dam in Hartwell [my hometown] and to a place overlooking the lake. We did the usual: laughed, joked, took crazy photos.  Throughout the day, I was thinking about how 'friendly' and how comfortable this feels. Don't get me wrong, we are very much in love, but it sometimes surprises me how much like friends we are. I guess that's a good thing though- they say you're supposed to marry your best friend, so...

I was also thinking about how surreal this whole engagement thing feels. I mean, when I really think about being engaged and the fact that I'm getting married next year, it's just like, 'Wow...I'm really engaged to my best friend...I'm about to get freakin' married next year...That just seems so crazy to me! Lol But really, I am very excited about everything to come...woo hoo!

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Presenting...

The wedding colors!

Black is one of my favorite colors, and Chris and I both like yellow- it's a happy color, and it's bright. So, the colors are....

[Yellow, Black and White]

I made this little inspiration board today, but knowing me, it's the first of many. Anyway, here it is:

What do you think?

Photos from: theknot.com, mypersonalartist.blogspot.com, stoverscustomcakes.com, wedding-dress.ec51.com, sugarpluminvitations.blogspot.com, blissevent.com, zazzle.com

Wedding vs. Marriage

As you probably know, I spend a lot of some time looking at wedding websites & blogs. I recently came across a post (or article) discussing how some peoplefocus too much on the wedding part as opposed to the actual marriage. And as you can probably guess, a lot of those marriages end in divorce.

It made me think. Yes, I want a fabulous, darn-near-perfect wedding (it can't be absolutely perfect, I hear), and I want the wedding day to be a reflection of us and our love, but the marriage is what it's really about. I don't want to get so caught up in having the "right" colors, the "right" flowers, the "perfect" dress and shoes and hair and forget about what the wedding truly symbolizes, and why everyone is really there.

[The wedding is just a day...the marriage is a lifetime.]

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Wedding planning-ugh!

I'd always said when I got engaged, I did not want to plan the wedding. Even though I'm somewhat of a control freak a hands-on kind of person, I. Don't. Like. Planning. Events. I learned this while in college.

As a mass communication major, I had to take two electives unrelated to my field, which was print. I chose public relations (PR) because I wasn't interested in anything having to do with broadcast journalism or advertising- but I digress. In the introductory class, we had to plan an event called the mass comm mixer for freshmen and sophomores who were interested in mass comm (or just wanted some free food). I pretty much hated all of the planning aspect of it.

Back to the matter at hand. Since I'm getting married sooner than I thought I would (even though I didn't have an actual time in mind, I didn't think it would be this soon), and I don't really have the funds to hire a planner (at least not at this moment), I have to plan it myself (yay!!)  Well, my cousin did say she'd love to help because wedding planning is something she'd been interested in as a career.

But my point is that the wedding planning process seems like sooo much! You have to choose colors, a venue for the ceremony and reception, flowers, dresses, food, the people you want to invite, and the list goes on and on. I know, I know, I have a really long time (at least that's what Chris keeps telling me), but I want things to go as smoothly as possible, and I don't want to spend the three months prior to the date in a frenzy because I waited until the last minute to decide anything.

So...please feel free to share your words of wisdom, tips, anything! Thanks in advance! : )

Why do I feel like I'm bragging?

A lot of times, I don't like talking about my wedding plans or the fact that I'm engaged. Why? Because I feel like people will feel that I'm bragging. I don't know why I feel this way. I just don't want people to feel like I'm bragging because I'm engaged or that I think I'm better than everyone else because I'm getting married. Does that make sense? Or am I just crazy? Lol Has anyone else experienced this?

Bridal Party

So, even though my wedding is not until next year, I've been thinking about who's going to be in it. Actually, I was thinking about it before I was engaged, but only because I was sure Chris and I were getting married. Anyway, there are not a lot of family members on the list right now. I honestly don't think most of them care because we don't really talk like that, but then again, you never know. But knowing me, I'll keep the bridal party as is- a couple of relatives, my two bffs and some of Chris's family. However, I'm known for being indecisive, so we'll see... ; )

Colors I lurve

I originally had this in my Mocha Locs blog, but since this is the wedding blog, I decided to put it here.

I'm trying to figure out a color combo that we both like. Needless to say, it's not easy. But we have pleeenty of time, so I'm not worried. Here are some of my faves (but the black and pink is my fave):

 

 

 

 

Photos from: itsajaimething.com, inthedetailsblog.com, thewishlist.com

How did you choose your wedding colors?

Mocha's new blog!

Most of you know me as Jamie Fleming or Mocha Writer, and you might also know that I'm engaged!

Since I'm a writer and blogger and love sharing things (and since this will be a looong planning process), I decided to create an entirely new blog dedicated to my wedding & marriage planning process. So basically I'll be talking about our plans. Check out the about page for more info on us : )

Enjoy!